tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366910039525744380.post9129121758291753687..comments2012-06-27T02:55:17.849+01:00Comments on Life's a Pain: Can I still look forward to the future?Vikihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09393812919142977540noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366910039525744380.post-28722745488010105412012-06-03T14:41:44.097+01:002012-06-03T14:41:44.097+01:00Thank you both. I know I'm definitely not thin...Thank you both. I know I'm definitely not thinking rationally at the moment, although thankfully I havent felt as down as I did last weekend again. I have and will continue to try and be a bit more open with him about how I'm feeling rather than waiting until it builds up. He does come to all of the hospital appointments and things that he can, I find it much easier when I have a second pair of ears too. I think a lot of why I'm so bad (other than the obvious pain!) is being off work for so long and therefore spending so much time on my own. Dont get me wrong, I dont feel up to going back yet, but I'm hoping when I do I'll feel a bit more like my old self. I definitely know I would be lost without him. I guess I'm lucky he doesnt scare easily xVikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09393812919142977540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366910039525744380.post-42846379231022856282012-06-02T03:35:09.007+01:002012-06-02T03:35:09.007+01:00Hi Viki,
If it is any help I went through these ...Hi Viki, <br /><br />If it is any help I went through these mourning stages with my diagnosis in my mid to late 20's. I did not have a boyfriend at the time of my diagnosis and I kept thinking the same things you are thinking. It would be unfair to burden anyone with this and there is no certain future to what serious disabilities will be present. I took a leap of faith on someone (my fiance) and as hard as it is and I still struggle with anger and resentment about my life sentence of RA, it does help a lot to have someone in your life that loves you. He may not understand right away but a constant open communication with him will help. Include him on doctor's visits. He will see you at your worse but if he says he wants to stay, believe me he does. I used to push my fiance away all of the time. It really upsets the male species when we do that. I had a breakdown from pain and exhaustion and have needed antidepressants and to talk with a psychiatrist to help me in the real dark days. Everyday is a struggle but like Deb said, it would help some to talk to a professional. RA and depression seem to go hand in hand. I have found my blog to help me a lot as well. So you keep being brave and if you want to be facebook friends....let me know. I'm here for you Viki.<br /><br />Take care and get rest.<br />AAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366910039525744380.post-12870630976414971742012-05-31T19:22:33.642+01:002012-05-31T19:22:33.642+01:00Well as far as the boyfriend and your future...non...Well as far as the boyfriend and your future...none of us knows our future. Not you, not him, not anyone here on earth. God forbid but true, he could become deathly sick in an instance, hit by a car, etc. etc. Would you be by his side? I would hope so, if you truly love him. He is fortunate as he knows what he is getting. He knows your disabilities or chronic conditions and loves you all the same. You might want to consider counseling for yourself to talk with someone who does counseling for people with pain and chronic illness. And there are no guarantees for any of us. Whether you have chronic illness or not, doesn't make for a guaranteed successful marriage. That like anything else worthwhile in life takes work and alot of it. Sounds like you bo is a keeper to me. Stop pushing him away and instead welcome the love he has to offer.Deb aka AbcsOfrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12619087592028571941noreply@blogger.com